hi, I’m Lisa
CREATOR OF LILA MOVEMENT
Born and raised in Northern California, Bay Area. Married the love of my life in 2007 and moved to Montana. After 9 years of long winters we decided to move our life to Arizona where we spent 5 years before his career change took us to Florida.
In spring of 2023 while living in Fort Lauderdale, my husband passed away unexpectedly. With all of my friends and family being on the other side of the country, I sold all of our furniture and unnecessary belongings and moved back to Montana where I spent the next several months grieving and learning to live in this completely new reality. Over the past 2 years my life has been about rediscovering who I am without all my previous identities and roles, deep healing, spiritual growth and rebuilding my life. It has been full of immense heartache and also, an unexpected sense of freedom that has allowed me to live life more spontaneously. Following the nudges from my soul, I live a nomadic lifestyle of traveling, exploring, grieving, dancing and playing!
Going back, my mid 20’s through early 40’s were focused on my entrepreneurial career in the fitness and wellness space as a personal trainer, gym owner, wellness and lifestyle coach, and social marketer. I was very focused on serving others and placed my value in my ability to help create a desired outcome for someone else. It felt good to lead and feel needed, being “on” teaching and training feed my ego. When the online space became the norm, I found myself very much operating in my masculine energy . . . independent woman fully embracing the lady boss era. It was an adrenaline rush, a high of sorts for me to perform in this way. However, I found myself in a vicious cycle … hustle - burn out, hustle - adrenal fatigue, hustle - collapse. And while I was “doing personal development”, I had been unconsciously using my work, and being the “hero” in other peoples lives, as an avoidance technique. I was too busy helping everyone else and trying to reach the next level in business to face into the depths of my unprocessed pain and do the real inner work.
It wasn’t until I lost my husband Chris in 2023, and was thrust into a spiritual journey that forced me to let go of it all, the entire “I got this” persona I had built. I was shown what was underneath all my armor, it was all a costume of protection— the strong, badass, resilient, independent, “do-it-all” woman. I proudly wore these labels like badges of honor. And while there were many times my grittiness and resiliency were helpful in business and in life, most of the time (especially in my personal life), it kept me from fully opening my heart. I was guarded, operating in fear, and disconnected from my femininity. I attempted to control life and everything in it.
My husbands passing was an awakening and rebirth for me, it completely transformed every part of my life, my values, the way I live, and how I define success. I have since created a life of more ease, spaciousness and simplicity. I live a slower paced life of quiet mornings, dance and somatic movement, spacious travel and depth. And, I do still make space for the thrill seeker side of me that likes to train and play hard. Losing my husband really guided me to soften and reconnect to the feminine essence in me that I had been labeling as “weak”. It also gave my love for dance a meaningful purpose and laid the foundation for me to birth Lila Movement, igniting what has been my purpose all along, to share my love and passion for movement and music. Everyday, I am in a dance with the insatiable longing I feel for him and the gratitude I feel that our love led me here, to serve and share my gifts in this way.
the birth of LILA MOVEMENT
In the early morning hours of April 30th, 2023 my entire world collapsed.
While I was away on a business trip, the love of my life, my best friend and husband of 18 years, didn’t wake up. He had passed away in his sleep. There I was, several states away, in a hotel room, in the fetal position, screaming, pacing, my heart ripped out of me, unable to comprehend how this could be my life. It felt like a massive emergency and yet, there was nothing I could do. For the first time in my life, there was a fire I had no tools for. The resilience I had been wearing like armor my entire life, shattered. The heartache was so intense, all I could do was surrender to the pain. I let go and allowed myself to be taken by the darkness.
I’ve spent the past 2 years inside the waters of grief, learning to accept the loss of my person while also experiencing a loss of self and the life I believed was mine. This experience led to a profound spiritual awakening which continues to transform my entire life and my relationship with death. My grief visits me everyday. I allow it, I honor it, I let it be expressed through me, through movement. What started as a way to survive this nightmare, became a movement practice, a spiritual connection to him, a deepening of our love and, it led me right to my divine purpose, The birth of Lila Movement.
Through somatic release my heart has opened and softened. I feel him guiding me. I experience moments of joy and aliveness that I never thought were possible in this new life after partner loss. My heart is full of love, purpose, life, and grief. This is my dance, this is my offering, to be with it all, to allow the heartache and joy to co-exist, and to lead others who are guided to this path.
“There is some strange intimacy between GRIEF and ALIVENESS, some sacred exchange between what seems UNBEARABLE and what is most exquisitely ALIVE”
— Francis Weller